Friday, September 6, 2013

Friendly Friday Post: Stefani from Sarcasm and Cupcakes

I'm excited to have Stefani on my blog today! She was one of my first ever roommates. She is a great lady. I just love the name of her blog and she is always so uplifting. Be sure to check it out here! :)

Taking Chances

We all have embarassing moments. Some are more mortifying than ever. Some we let seriously effect us and some we are able to laugh off. Let me tell you about my most recent embarassing moment:

I am single and 22 years old and my grandpa thinks this is ubsurd and he needs to get me married! So every time I go and see him he always asks about my love life. My answer has been the same for a while now: “Grandpa I am fine being alone. I am happy and when Prince Charming comes into my life I will let you know.” Well he doesn’t always like this answer and he likes to get my uncle on his side and they begin with the probing. (Let me just say this: I HATE talking about my love life or more approriately the lack thereof so I do my best to keep my cool during these “fun” conversations.”

Well every time I go and visit my uncle and aunt I usually end up going to church with them and my uncle likes to try and set me up with every single guy he knows. Well one guy in particular, we will call him Jordan, is a single guy that was attending their church whiole he was back from school for the summer. He was quite attractive and my uncle was constantly trying to get me to go talk to him but I ignored him. On one particular Sunday, we were having family dinner and one of those great talks of “Hey Stefani,when are you going to get married? We need to find you someone.” came up. On this particular Sunday I was feeling very sassy so I started talking back and really defending myself. My uncle brought up that he happened to know that Jordan’s parents were out of town and I should take him a piece of cake. Let me just note that I have never even met the guy! But My grandpa picked up on the Jordan issue and he chimed in and thought that was the best idea since sliced bread! Of course he did...

So to get them off my back I caved and said, “FINE! I will take the man some cake!” So I went and made myself look presentable, I grabbed some cake and from a suggestion from my uncle I took a can of Dr.Pepper for his mom on the off chance she was there. Apparently this is her favorite beverage. Great not only would I look crazy but I would look like a suck-up... Oh well nothing to lose right?

So I get in my car and put the plate of cake in my car and the Dr.Pepper and I drive over to Jordan’s house. I sit in my car and I am shaking. I finally mustered up the courage and I went to the door attempting to juggle the cake, the Dr.Pepper and my keys. Doesn’t sound too complicated but I was struggling... Don’t laugh. I get to the door and I pause and think, “What the heck am I doing?! Are you crazy?!” But I wanted my grandpa to leave me alone. So I knock on the door. There I had done it. All I could think was, “Please don’t be home, please don’t be home!” But low and behold Jordan’s father answers the door... Yeah he is supposed to be out of town according to my genius uncle. I had a deer-in-the-headlights look and said, “Hi... Um you must be Jordan’s dad. My name is Stefani....” At this point I go to shake his hand trying to juggle my items... And then the unthinkable happened. As if this was not already humiliating, I drop the cake. All. Over. The. Porch. I immediately bend down to clean it up and I am apologizing incesantly and saying how embarassed I am. Jordan’s dad was kind and after I “cleaned” up my mess I finished explaining why I was there and he invited me in. I didn’t want to be rude but the last place I wanted to be was in that house. I walked in and was greeted by the nicest lady I have ever met and the most perfect group of kids I have ever met. I did my best to be polite as this turned into a family sit down. I was nervous and Jordan was being so kind but did that thing where he finds out where I live and asks if I know his buddies and how I REALLY need to look them up... Dude I get it you aren’t interested. I was finally able to excuse myself and I was escorted out by Jordan’s father...

Wow. That just happened. I went back to my aunt and uncles house and I was silent most of the night. I was mortified! It has to be the most epic humiliation of my life thus far and my ego was seriously bruised.

But I got to thinking a couple of days later... Am I really going to let this put another dent into my already damaged heart? It was one embarassing moment. I never have to see this guy again. I guess to look on the bright side, I will never have to ask “What if I had the courage to introduce myself?” Well we all know what happened there.

My point with all of this is that there will always be little set backs in our lives. But most of the time, these set backs will actually teach us a lesson if we are open to it. I was able to realize that I am courageous and I can do things I never thought I would have the gumption to do.

So my challenge to you is even though there is a possibility of major humiliation in trying something you never thought you would do, it is slightly rewarding even if it blows up in your face. Because you tried it! So friends, don’t let the little voices in your head that tell you that you can’t effect you so much that you never take risks. That is a life unlived and just survived. Try something new today and take what ever happens as a lesson.